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Hi, I'm Aimee

I am a Grief Guide and Wayfinder with the sole focus of helping people after loss or a catastrophic experience find healing and a new way forward.

I’ve combined my personal experience (56,000+ hours of grief and recovery work) and The Martha Beck Life Coach Training to offer Grief Guidance and Wayfinding sessions to you. It is the perfect combination of real life + science + magic.

Read more about my story and why I'm now here.

 

My Story

If you meet me you’d probably never believe my story. It’s the stuff Netflix original series are made of. I was an average 33 year old woman - married, two children, dog, solid job, living in the suburbs - checking boxes and doing the daily grind.

But I had secrets.

Some better kept than others. I was running that hamster wheel HARD. And I wasn’t happy.

The first avalanche: Finding out (by accident) that my husband was a meth addict.

    Next: An intervention.  

        Then: Outpatient treatment.

            Finally: Off to inpatient treatment.

                Graduated to a halfway house.

                    And for the finale: Drug overdose and death in another woman’s bed.

#done

Complete breakdown. Unglued and out of reality...for months. And then one night I sat on my back patio after I put my two little ones to bed, smoking cigarette after cigarette. My mind raced. The timeline. The other woman. This lie. That lie. The insanity of it all.

And then it slowed.

As I went receptive to what was coming, I felt a calmness I didn’t recognize. A sense of knowing flowed from the top of my head, down my face and it coursed through every inch of my body.

I WAS GOING TO BE OK. And beyond that I felt my first twinge of hope.

Without knowing why, I KNEW the unexpected gift I found in my dark night of the soul would become the basis of my life's work.

Here we are more than six and half years later. That’s more than 56,000 hours of experience with grief, loss and re-creating a totally wrecked life (+ raising 2 kids, paying bills and EVERYTHING else).

I daydreamed about being the woman I am today. I didn't think she could ever be me. I mean, TRAUMA. Baggage. Heeeavvvvyy baggage. But here I am. I’ve raised two children out of toddler years and almost elementary school all by myself. I left corporate America and began my own marketing coaching business. I kept us fed; in our home; dated; loved again; chartered adventures like moving to Mexico for a month. And TODAY, I am engaged to the love of my life.

We are living life. We are not merely surviving.

When I recognized the healing in my life and I accepted that my late husband’s death was MY own awakening, the Wonder&Flow concept was born. To live in Wonder&Flow means:

To exist in the present moment...

[1] And to NOTICE the beauty all around you just as it is (not the cliche of stopping to smell the roses, although that is lovely). I’m talking about the gorgeousness + magic in our humanity, in nature and in all the other little intricacies known and unknown that make our experience on Earth what it is. (That’s Wonder!)

[2] And MOVE forward in alignment and peace with your purpose while honoring the beauty as life unfolds around you. (That is Flow.)

After Wonder&Flow came alive in me, communities were born on Facebook and Instagram in October 2015. Telling my story without the shame attached to the chaotic and horrific events that led to my late husband’s death was important to me, as well as cathartic. I also knew deep in my heart that I wasn’t alone in my grief journey. Immediately I received a swell of support including comments, personal messages and emails from others thanking me for speaking up and sharing my truth which resonated so deeply with them. Others reached out directly wanting to tell their stories and many began asking for guidance with their grief.

When I began interacting with the Wonder&Flow Community, or as I lovingly call them, Wonder&Flow(ers), I felt a connection back to that moment on the patio I described to you when I KNEW that my late husband’s death was more than just an ending, but an awakening. I was in alignment with my purpose. But I didn’t know how it would all come together...until I was halfway through the Martha Beck Life Coach Training.

At that point in the training I had another awakening. I realized that I wanted to create a life coaching practice helping people live vibrantly in the world, but without my own “original medicine”. (Original medicine according to Dr. Martha Beck are the gifts that you and only you have to offer the world.)

I wasn’t going to focus on loss or catastrophic events in my new practice. THAT was behind me. Right?

Days, then weeks fell away and I felt baffled.

What’s beautiful and a bit painful about the Martha Beck Life Coach Training is that our mantra is “Live it, to give it”. And in doing so, I found incongruencies in my plan. Life coaching without my original medicine would be like teaching drivers ed without ever putting the students in the car.

So I trudged forward through the muck until it became crystal clear...

I am a Grief Guide and Wayfinder with the sole focus of helping people after loss or a catastrophic experience find healing and a new way forward.

And now here we are.

I’ve combined my personal experience (56,000+ hours of grief and recovery work) and The Martha Beck Life Coach Training to offer Grief Guidance and Wayfinding sessions to you. It is the perfect combination of real life + science + magic.